Many of us have been listening to comedienne & award-winning Actress Monique & her “Daddy”; husband Sydney Hicks telling anyone who would listen about her claims of being black balled in the entertainment field. The Hollywood trifecta of Oprah Winfrey, Lee Daniels & Tyler Perry where her principle nemeses. In the 8 + years, Monique’s work has been seen in films but more often she has been noticed for her splashes in the media; no major ripples until she requested people to boycott Netflix. All you heard from Facebook to Twitter to major media outlets “Say, what Monique!! Have you lost your mind?” Now, I must admit; I was not even remotely considering boycotting Netflix. I am still waiting for the new season of Luke Cage. Quiet as it is kept, I am probably one of only 10 people who likes Will Smith’s Netflix series “Bright”. Needless to say, that was a huge request and I needed to learn why.
As I did my research, I saw that many people felt that Monique’s refusal of $500,000 from Netflix was a bad move. People were down right pissed; from Roland Martin to any blogger from California to NY was irked and made sure we all knew. No matter where I looked, darn near everyone I followed on all my media platforms had something to say about it, and 90% of it wasn’t nice. I had no idea that people felt so passionately about Monique. Below, I have compiled four talking points that seem to be the agreed upon consensus of many. I will list what many have said AND then add what I feel they are really saying.
- What they said: She needs to take that $500, 000 & be happy. Work her way back up. Ain’t nobody checking for her. She isn’t a Dave Chappelle or Chris Rock.
What they are really saying: How dare you ask for what you feel you deserve? Every time I hear you & see you I am reminded of times when I compromised myself to get along; waiting for better that was suppose come next time. (which never came as I sat in silence SHUT UP MONIQUE!
- What they said: When did she start caring about the disparity of pay for women of color? She only cares because it’s affecting her pocketbook now.
What they are really saying: Have I ever truly cared about another’s plight unless it affected myself or people I care about. I am not capable of sincere empathy without it being self-serving in some form or fashion. SHUT UP MONIQUE!
- What they said: She is loud & pushy. She has a bad attitude. That’s what she gets for going at Oprah & Lee Daniels. She knows how the game is played.
What they are really saying: I can’t stand people demanding to be heard because I have not been heard. I have yet to feel fully empowered to speak my truths & my pains because I feel no one truly cares. There are certain people I feel subject to. I fear losing by exercising choice and expect negative consequence if I go against what is popular. SHUT UP MONIQUE!
- What they said: Why does she keep calling her husband “Daddy”?
What they are really saying: Those types of expressions are not customary for a “strong, outspoken, woman.” I don’t feel comfortable being feminine even in my strength as a woman, especially in public. I am not comfortable in my masculine to accept that from a woman in public. SHUT UP MONIQUE!
Now, I know that wasn’t exactly what you were expecting. Even if you don’t want to admit it, at least one of those points resonated with you. Until you can show empathy to yourself, you can never show empathy for another and thus never progress to where you desire to be. While many called her out on playing Victims & Villains, they themselves loved tossing the Shame & Blame cards at will. If she triggers you or amuses you, she is your reflection.The truth is the truth , no matter who the messenger is.
All is love ,